Thursday, August 28, 2008

"Gotcha Day!"

Sorry for the delay on the posting. Gotcha Day was actually 2 days ago, but it has been a crazy two days. When we went to the orphanage to pick up Dima, we were informed that he had a bad fever and throat infection. So, instead of celebrating with pictures and video we ended up going to a pharmacy and then home to put Dima to bed. Dima had several prescriptions. One was an inhaler to help with the throat infection (Probably Strep). He loves the inhaler. He opens his mouth really wide and takes it like a man. Another prescription is an antibiotic in tablet form. Dima is a pro at taking tablets. He just chews them up and washes them down with a little water. These are not flavored tablets either. These are adult tablets cut in half and we all know how these things taste, don't we? Interestingly enough, when we give him the grape flavored Tylenol for the fever, he almost gags on it.
Yesterday and today we were working on getting the paperwork completed for Dima's passport. They informed us that it might not be ready until September 8th. So, now we are back in the apartment packing our bags to head back to Kiev to wait on the passport and then get his visa. After that, we get to bring him to the U.S. Unfortunately, Dave will not get to stay the entire time because he has to go back to work. He is just about out of time to be off and needs to get back. This should make for an interesting journey for me to bring Dima back along with all of our luggage. We did buy a stroller over here so at least I won't have to worry about Dima running off. Of course that is just one more thing for me to haul around.
All in all, the last few days have been great, once Dima started feeling better. He is smiling a lot more and really opening up to us. He still has his shy moments but gets over them more quickly. One note...he does not like elevators. As soon as the door closes, he screams and cries until they open back up. Did we mention that we are staying on the 16th floor? That's a lot of screaming and we have heard comments from people saying that they have heard him scream all the way up. Today, the power was out in the complex so we got to take the stairs. Dima walked up the whole way without one complaint...though he did take a long nap afterwards!
Well, we need to get back to packing. We leave for Kiev in about 7 hours and still need to get some sleep. We will try to keep the blog updated but we are not sure how much internet access time we will get.

We're almost home so keep those prayers coming!

Candace and Dave

Friday, August 22, 2008

Playing around...

The last few days with Dima have been so fun playing around. He has really started to come out of his shell a lot more, and has also learned a few words in English: "Thank you", "Please", and "Fish" (you had to be there!). Anyway, it helped a lot once we added the sign language. He is a very smart little guy and doesn't appear to have the speech delays that the orphanage was saying he did. He loves to play hide and seek with us up in the room where the kid's lockers are. He will climb into the lockers and peek out grinning. He also squeezes into the corner in between the lockers and laughs and squeels when we "find" him! The other day Dima and Daddy discovered the jungle gym and Dima runs for it whenever he can (when he isn't swinging or playing in the sandbox). The little guy has great coordination for his size and does very well climbing up the rails of the jungle gym. We have also started feeding him bananas and baby food and juice. He loves to drink water out of a water bottle like a grown-up! He seems to be growing everyday and we cannot wait to get him out of there and take him home!





As of right now, we are on target for getting the birth certificate on Tuesday and hopefully to take Dima home with us. If we can not get him on Tuesday, then we should definitely get him Wednesday. From there, we will apply for his passport which can take about a week. We are leaning towards going to Kiev to await the passport, but we won't know until next week. We are still having a blast with our family here. The son in the family is actually now acting as our driver/translator while Galya has returned to Kiev. We decided that it would be cheaper for us to just rent a car than to try to depend on taxis and fight the language barrier on our own. I have been able to remember some of my Russian, but unfortunately I get tongue-tied whenever trying to communicate with people I don't know. But I can at least read the signs and listen in on people's conversations!





We hope all is going well back home. School has started again and so has MOPS. I hope all the moms had a great first meeting today! I sure wish I could have been there with you all to celebrate the beginning of the new year! Hopefully we will be back in time to attend the next meeting.





To Bennett and Samuel: Mommy and Daddy love you very much and cannot wait to see you. Bennett, I hope you had a great first week of school--you will have to tell us all about it when we get home. We are very proud of you and know you have really grown up this summer. Sammy, I know you are being a good helper to Nana Kaye and Pa and Grandma and Grandpa. Are you being a "big boy"? We are so proud of you and know that you are going to be a great big brother to Dima. Hugs and kisses to you both.





Thanks to everyone for your thoughts and prayers. We are very ready to come home and see our family and friends. We love and miss you all.



Candace and Dave























Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Pictures, pictures, and MORE pictures!

We had a fun day of work yesterday. Our host family works on a farm owned by their church to raise money for the orphanage their church runs. We decided when we came that we would like to spend a day on the farm working and seeing all that they do. When we arrived, it was neat to see how much they have been able to accomplish in only five years since starting the farm. The day began with our picking apples from the orchard to sell at the local market. Dave and I thought it was really neat that these small trees had so many apples on them. After picking the apples, we then picked all the rotten ones off the ground to feed the pigs. They have about 50 LARGE pigs with about 4 of them with piglets (they were the cute ones!). After working in the orchard in the morning, Dave worked hard moving hay bales and bags of wheat while Galya (our translator) and I washed large jars for canning. We also got to walk through their veggie patch and eat some fresh strawberries and tomatoes (I had never eaten a tomato like an apple before! Yummy!). It was a hard day of work, but was very rewarding to see the sacrifice our family here makes to support the church's orphanage. As a result of selling the apples and 3 pigs yesterday, they were able to raise over $2000. Plus they had free labor--us! We just found out that they had more piglets today! Thirteen from one momma--whoa! Anyway, we have attached some pictures from yesterday's adventure on the farm. Enjoy! Dave and Candace







Dave and me in the orchard.






Our facilitator Galya showing some of the apples we picked.






Our host mom Luda in front of her tree. The orchard is her baby.






Our host dad Valeri piling hay.



One bunch of piglets and their mom.








Saturday, August 16, 2008

Court Decision...

Praise the Lord! We have a new little boy! After some nerve racking questions in the judge's chambers (court), the judge and jury decided that Dave and I could adopt little Dima. You cannot imagine the relief we felt when we heard those words! As part of the court decree, we were allowed to change his name and will be able to get a new birth certificate with his new name and with our names listed as parents. We have decided to name him William Dmitri Steyn. For now, his nickname will still be Dima. It will be hard to call him anything else! After looking through some name books, we decided on the name William for several reasons. The main reason we decided on the name was that we had been praying for God's will this whole time, and when we found out that we were going to get him, we decided that he is God's "Will". When we met him, we felt that the name really fit him too. He is definitely our little angel, and we cannot wait to be able to take him home and have him meet the boys! Our house is definitely going to be wild! By the way, I think we must have forgotten to mention, but his birthdate is March 18, 2006. Now all we have to do is wait the manditory 10 days for the court decision to be final. After that period is over, we will be able to go get his new birth certificate and then take him to the apartment with us as we wait for his passport. When we get his passport, we can then take him back to Kiev for the final medical exam and the visa to go home. This whole process we hear can take about 1-2 weeks. We are guessing that we will be able to travel home around the first week in September. Please continue to pray for safety and a quick end to this process. We love and miss you all!


Love, Candace and Dave and Dima Steyn!


Here is a picture of little Dima and proud Momma!

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Our Court Date

Hello from beautiful Odessa! Dave and I are having a good time (despite being really homesick!) here in Odessa and staying with our Christian Ukrainian family. They have really been a blessing to us and we have to say that we are eating REALLY well!! We are going to have to readjust to our plain hotdogs and macaroni and cheese when we return home! Thank you again for all your thoughts and prayers for us and for all your comments.

Today we had another good day with Dima at the orphanage. Every day that we go makes it harder and harder to leave him there at the end of the day. All we want to do is take him home with us! He is such a sweetie and has really been bonding well with us. He also seems to really enjoy the freedom he has to go all over the orphanage grounds when he is with us. His group tends to stay in just one section, while the older children can run all around. It is so cute to watch Dima walking around, swinging his arms like he is a "big kid"! Dima really enjoys reading books, coloring, and looking at the photo album we brought with us. He knows exactly where the cats and dogs are in the album and loves to look at them.

Well, our good news for the week is that we were able to get a quick court date. We have court tomorrow (Friday) at 12 noon (5 AM Louisville time). We are really excited and hope and pray for a smooth appointment. We will post an update as soon as we can after court. Take care and we will write again soon.


Candace and Dave

Here are a couple more pictures of Dima.











Sunday, August 10, 2008

Another day, another city

Hello everyone. We hope all is well with you back in America. It has been a very busy week for us, and we are now getting comfortable in our new place. We have travelled about 6 hours out of Kiev to Odessa, Ukraine, also on the Black Sea and the main port city in Ukraine. The weather is beautiful and we even went to the beach yesterday.

Now to get past the suspense! We have found our Ukraine Angel! He is a little 2 year old boy with blue eyes and curly blond hair. His name is Dima (short for Dmitri) and everyone at the orphanage seems to love him. Dima has a very sweet personality and interestingly enough reminds us of both our boys. He likes to pick up trash around the orphanage and throw it away and also hates his hands being dirty (sound like Bennett?). He also looks alot like Samuel and reminds me of Sammy when he laughs. The first day we met him, the poor guy had a hard time accepting new people in his life (which we will have to remember when we get home!). He cried and did not want us to come near him. Two days later, he actually cried when we left. He is quickly bonding with us and smiles when he sees us and loves to get hugs. Of course, I am sure that the cookies and juice that we bring him everyday have nothing to do with it! We are very blessed and love going to see him every day.

In Odessa, we are staying with a host family about an hour from the orphanage. While we think we are really only about 10 miles away (as a crow flies), the streets are all curved and packed with traffic. We were very happy to learn that the family is Christian and also speak English. After about a day, we already felt like part of the family. This is exactly what we needed after such a hard time in Sevastopal. The cooking is wonderful and Dave is experimenting with food once again! While many of the new things that we have tried have been very good, we highly recommend NOT drinking KBAC (pronounced kvaas). It is an Ukrainian version of non-alcoholic wine. They call it Ukrainian Coke and you can find it practically on every street corner in big tanks.

Below is a picture of little Dima so you can put a face to those prayers you are sending--the prayers are working! Please continue to pray for us and little Dima. Today we found out that he had an ear infection. We really don't know how bad it is, but we went and bought some medicine for him. He really has a tender heart and we already love him dearly. Please continue to pray for a quick process and safety for us with everything going on in this region. We love and miss you all and hope to see you soon.

Candace and Dave


Sunday, August 3, 2008

Back to the beginning...

Well, we unfortunately have some bad news to share. After the judge issued another 2 week delay on Tuesday, Dave and I decided that the door was closing on this adoption. There are many, many details that we are unable to share at this moment that helped us come to this decision. What we can tell you right now is that one of the obstacles that we had to overcome was that the child had an older sister who had just turned 18 and did not want us to go through with the adoption. She petitioned the court to become guardian herself. Although the court informed us that they would probably appoint us as guardians, it was not a definite and the sister would have no doubt appealed the ruling and it would have been at least another month if not longer. We just could not see playing "tug of war" with her over this child. It would have destroyed all of us. All we can do at this point is to pray for the precious child we had grown to love.

Wednesday, Dave and I travelled back to Kiev to await another appointment. One bright note was that this train ride was MUCH better than the first. Apparently when you travel first class on the trains, you get air-conditioning! After racing to get everything packed, we made it to the train station about 10 minutes before the train left to find that the ONLY tickets available were 3 1st class tickets. Otherwise, we would have had to either wait another day or travel to another city. We quickly bought the tickets and ran to the train (with all our heavy luggage in tow!) I had visions of having to jump on the train as it was leaving! Luckliy we got on the train with about a minute to spare. Dave is constantly saying that this is the "last time this luggage is going anywhere!"

We are now in Kiev and have our appointment to select another child tomorrow. We continue to pray for God's will for this adoption. We thank you for all your prayers and for your patience in our updating the blog. As you can imagine, things have not been easy the last few days. We love you all and pray to see you again soon.

Candace and Dave